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Norway’s most popular publication, VG, published a short documentary featuring the tumultuous tale of kindergarteners in love. At the most basic level it’s super cute, but the story unravels to reveal the sad and awkward reality of male-female views on dating, no matter the age.
The story opens in the Spring with four-year-old Ailin and five-year-old Lars explaining their budding relationship at an Oslo kindergarten. It’s a love story like many others. Girl likes boy. Boy has no clue what’s going on. Another boy feins interest in girl. Boy suddenly realizes he must have girl. Boy makes girl his girlfriend. They are in love. They talk about moving in together.
Suddenly, fate’s cruel hand whisks the boy away. He’s a year older than Ailin and must start First grade, leaving her behind in kindergarten. She still thinks about Lars fondly but manages to snag a new boyfriend. Lars on the other hand is so busy doing first grader things that he reveals he doesn’t even think about Ailin. Ever. Out of sight out of mind.
Which is where the female-male dichotomy in a relationship start to come out. Lars loved being in love, he was there in the moment, but as soon as he left Ailin’s kindergarten for first grade he basically forgot about her. While they’re at the same kindergarten everyday he mentions wanting to die at night because she isn’t with him at home. Yet those feelings disappear into thin air with the change of a season.
It’s obvious that Ailin is more emotionally mature than Lars and focuses on the greater scheme of things. She gets it and she seems to be the orchestrator of their match up. She’s strong and knows what she wants, but she soon learns a hard lesson. When it comes to matters of the heart, you can never force a man to be with you. If he’s not in it, he’ll most likely hit it and quit it…or stay in the relationship until something better comes along. Simple as that.
Later, the two reunite at a karate class, and here’s where it gets awkward. Ailin builds up the reunion beforehand by revealing she’s excited to see Lars after so long . He doesn’t seem to get the significance of the event. After the class she stands next to him on a wall waiting for him to talk to her. He ignores her. No ‘hi’. No ‘how’ve you been’. Nothing. It’s like when you hung out with a boy everyday in junior high, walked home together after school, ate lunch together, did his homework, all that. Then one day, you’re standing against the wall at a school dance pretending not to see him, secretly begging for him to make eye contact with you.
Or how about in college, when you were texting with that guy almost every night. You tried to stay casual, you know waiting an hour or so before texts, but you could tell he liked you. That Friday at the party, you’re all waiting around the keg and you glimpse the back of his head but don’t make initial contact. He’ll come up to you right? RIGHT? Except hours pass and he doesn’t acknowledge you. Now that you’re in your 20’s you just get drunk to initiate. And when you do he’s like OH HEY HOW ARE YOU acting all nice and casual and flirty and you’re just wondering why he didn’t come say hi to you in the first place. So you skirt around the topic and ask if he just got there, and he tells you that he saw you when he arrived a couple of hours ago. So then you skirt around that topic because you want to know why he didn’t say hi earlier if he saw you but just end up making out with him by the fridge.
All in all, it seems that women are looking at the big picture of a relationship while men are looking at literally one pixel at a time, and this innocent little story explained just that. Sigh.
Because this phenomenon runs rampant in society, Amy Schumer was able to provide a snapshot of what Ailin might become in 20 years. It’s not pretty.
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